Résumés
Résumé
La négociation est devenue un aspect presque indissociable de la recherche sur les relations intimes. Dans le présent article, nous mettons en question la négociation en tant que concept efficace lorsqu’il s’agit de comprendre comment les couples organisent leur vie en commun, plus particulièrement la façon dont les couples suédois gèrent leurs finances. L’utilisation de la négociation tend à dissimuler certaines inégalités structurelles, puisque le quotidien est alors perçu comme le résultat d’une entente préétablie. Ceci nous porte à conceptualiser les relations de couple comme s’il n’y existait aucun rapport de pouvoir. Nous soutenons qu’un moyen plus efficace d’étudier l’organisation financière et la vie en commun des couples serait d’aborder ces sujets en tenant compte des rôles de genre dans la vie de tous les jours.
Abstract
Negotiation has become an almost given aspect of research on intimate relationships. In this article we question negotiation as a fruitful concept for understanding how couples organize their lives together, more specifically, how Swedish couples organize their finances. The use of negotiations tends to conceal structural inequalities since everyday life is seen as a worked out agreement. This leads to a conceptualizing of relations in couples as void of power. We argue that a more fruitful way of studying how couples organize their finances and lives together is by regarding this from the perspective of the gendered nature of everyday life.
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