Abstracts
Résumé
L’objectif de notre étude est de décrire l’expérience des mères ayant déjà utilisé les réseaux sociaux et/ou Internet, pour exercer leur rôle parental auprès de leurs enfants d’âge préscolaire. Les mères s’orientent vers les réseaux sociaux afin d’obtenir du soutien social (Jang et Dworkin, 2014; Nolan, Hendricks, et Towell, 2015). Spécifiquement, elles affirment privilégier les groupes privés de mères pour trouver des informations concernant le développement et les soins prodigués aux enfants (0-5ans). Cette utilisation vise à diminuer leur anxiété. Les réseaux sociaux et Internet contribuent à la fois au soutien informationnel, émotionnel et social recherché, mais peuvent produire une pression à correspondre à des standards de la mère parfaite ou de l’enfant parfait, en mettant en parallèle leurs pratiques parentales ou le développement de leur enfant. Ce résultat illustre la performance et le perfectionnisme prônés dans nos sociétés occidentales (Curran et Hill, 2017).
Mots-clés :
- pratiques parentales,
- mère,
- réseaux sociaux et Internet,
- soutien,
- enfants d’âge préscolaire
Abstract
The aim of our study is to describe the experience of mothers who have already used social media and/or the Internet to help fulfil their parental role towards their preschool-age children. Mothers turn to social media and the Internet for support (Jang & Dworkin, 2014; Nolan, Hendricks, & Towell, 2015). They state that they favor private groups of mothers to get information on development and care of children (0-5 years) in order to fulfil their role more adequately. This practice aims at reducing their anxiety. Social media and the Internet contribute to the informational, emotional and social support sought after, but may create pressure to meet the standards of the perfect mother or perfect child through social comparison of their parenting practices or their child’s development. This finding illustrates the performance and perfectionism promoted in our Western societies (Curran & Hill, 2017).
Keywords:
- parenting practices,
- mother,
- social media and internet,
- support,
- preschool children
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